Which are you; introvert or extravert? I once worked with an individual that was what I would describe as being moderately to extremely introverted and he made a point that I had never heard before. He said people act like being an introvert is a bad thing and as if it needs to be changed or “fixed”. As he and I worked closely together during our entire deployment in Kuwait, I noticed more and more what he meant.
In casual conversation, a lot of people were describing themselves as introverts, but they did so as if they were ashamed and they would normally follow up with the “confession” with a caveat that they’re working on it, and trying to do more outgoing things. These statements would irritate my friend a little and he would say that there’s nothing wrong with being who you are. He’d say if you prefer to be more private, or be alone more than being in groups, or prefer not to go play a board game or karaoke but instead sit at home and read, watch a movie, or work on your hobby, than do it and be ok with it.
I do see the benefit of developing your social skills if that is an area that you lack in, but does being introverted mean you lack social skills? Definitely not. I also could understand when people say they’re “working on it”, maybe they’re working on trying to be more outgoing. Not because being introverted is “bad”, but because they personally prefer to add another dimension to their personality. Nothing wrong with that right? Maybe the only error in all of this would be to prejudge a person because they are introverted or extroverted. We’re all different right? We all have something to add to the world right? The key is to find what that is and use it to help others…right? I’m introverted for the most part, but depending on the situation I can absolutely take lead and be the main focus. I tend to take that role when it’s my appointed or expected responsibility (being a father, boss at work, in charge of an event, program, committee, etc). What do you think about this topic? Leave your comments below. I look forward to hearing from you!