I was listening to an audio book and the author made a comment similar to this title and I though hmm, so do we need to lower our expectations? Of course, I didn’t assume that’s really what he was trying to say, but I started to anticipate what the antidote would be if he’s saying that we are only stressed because we had unmet expectations.
Let’s put this into context. Most people I know enjoy hanging out with friends in some way or another. So, if you’re one of those individuals and you expect your friend to hang out with you say, at least once a month, but two months go by and for no apparent reason that you’re aware of, you and your friend haven’t hung out. It’s starting to bother you and when you bring it up they blow it off like you’re making a big deal out of nothing. NOW, you’re feeling the stress come along, right?
At this point, if you didn’t have any expectation to hang once a month, then you wouldn’t be worried about the fact that you haven’t hung out in months right? What if it’s you and your spouse? Maybe you expect to spend quality time together. At least once per week you would like to be alone and have a halfway meaningful conversation, or watch a show together, or exercise together; whatever it is you and your spouse do for fun. If this quality time never happens, would you begin to experience some stress and frustration? Is it because you shouldn’t have expected anything? Maybe it’s because your expectation wasn’t made known, you just wanted them to read your mind…How do we deal with our expectations in these situations to help us feel less disappointed or let down when our expectations aren’t met? Or maybe we shouldn’t set expectations at all and just flow with life as it comes. Tell me what you think in the comment block at the bottom of this page.